Life’s urgencies.
Sometimes I’m asked about meeting with people on an urgent basis, and often this can be arranged.
When matters come to a head, so to speak, that can often be the most appropriate time to start to look at just what it might be, what it might be about, and what might be needed to address them for a better future.
Sometimes patterns can be discovered in the living of life, and when we’re stressed to a point of not feeling able to manage terribly well any more, we can fall back on the patterns of living that we might well have learnt a long time ago.
Thing is, those patterns may not necessarily be the most useful for the here and now, as they were moulded in the there and then….
And they especially might not be the most useful if they were taught us by others who also were struggling with their own issues at the time…. Growing up with stressed out parents, being adopted, rejected, living with alcoholics, or parents who just were never really there or noticed us.
However, if the urgency is a matter of absolute crisis, then counselling might not be the place to go first.
There are agencies and organisations much better placed to assist in matters of crisis – your crisis team from the mental health trust (if you’re already linked in with those services), your GP, the Samaritans – whose telephone number doesn’t appear on phone bills, if you ever needed to know that for future reference….
And when the absolute panic is settled, after the utter crisis has passed, then we can in counselling look at what that might have been.
As such, counsellors aim to be present for you, to properly listen which might be a novel experience for many. We might offer suggestions for exploring different possibilities, or we might offer an alternative perspective. We might suggest ways of coping, or ways of looking at it all, or even we might highlight that having feelings are relevant and valid and Allowed.
We hold the time and space for you, in which some meaningful work can be explored, meanings can be made and remade, responsibilities reassigned, and healing and real brain growth can happen. Maybe also the heart can settle, and the soul can feel less adrift.
Some people just need to pop in for a quick map-reading – check they’re on the right path for them. Some might wish to spend longer.
All are welcome.
Rosalyn Young is a qualified mental health nurse with 30 years
Experience in govt and private agencies helping those in crisis
and in recovery. She has studied counselling to degree level,
and specialises in working with survivors of childhood abuse
and neglect, PTSD, DID, and emotional regulation problems.
She lives in Lincolnshire with her husband and a variety of
companion animals, is a brewer of mead, and student of
growing things in the garden.
Contact her on 07906260310, or email contact@timeforcounselling.co.uk
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